A method for becoming who loss is asking you to be.
Life can change in an instant. What's left is figuring out who you are on the other side of it. I know what that feels like — I've had to remake myself again and again, each time loss rearranged my life. I'm here to help you do the same: discover who you are, now that everything has changed.
Grief doesn't erase love. It relocates it. And sometimes, the safest place to put it is in a pot on the stove.
I spent thirty years building restaurants.
I won awards, ran kitchens through dinner rushes that felt like war rooms, and fed people I loved for a living. Cooking was my language before I had any other one.
Then I lost four of the most important people to me — my mother, my father, my brother, my sister. And cooking became something else entirely. It stopped being about service, and became the place I could still reach them. A recipe is a way of saying I remember you when the words themselves won't come.
This work — the writing, the method, the coaching — grew out of standing at my own stove, missing someone, and making something anyway.
- Food & Wine Best New Chef 2006
- First recipient from New Hampshire
- Certified Grief Educator
- David Kessler certification program
- Erickson-Certified Coach (PCC)
- Solution-focused, vision-down methodology
- I Remember You When I Cook
- Forthcoming memoir
Where you might begin
One-to-one coaching
Private sessions for the work of rebuilding an identity after loss. We start where you actually are, not where you think you should be.
The Remembering
Writing, rituals, and the occasional recipe — for the days you need something to do with your hands.
When you're ready to talk
There's no right time, and no wrong way to start. Tell me where you are and I'll write back.
When you're ready to talk
There's no right time, and no wrong way to start. Tell me where you are and I'll write back — there's no obligation on the other side of it.
Stay in touch
Writing, rituals, and the occasional recipe — sent only when there's something worth saying. You'll be the first to know when the full site and the book are ready.